tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-239703775224526488.post3527796862856421011..comments2023-05-03T03:01:09.021-07:00Comments on Screaming Fat Girl: Jealousyscreaming fatgirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09556199963917842135noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-239703775224526488.post-37057570856262967882010-07-17T07:15:10.088-07:002010-07-17T07:15:10.088-07:00Thanks, Grump. :-)
It's interesting that you ...Thanks, Grump. :-)<br /><br />It's interesting that you say, "we are all in this together". I think that is true of some, but not so true of others. Some actually feel more successful when others fail, and some aren't happy unless everyone is doing things "the right way" (i.e., exactly the way they are doing it). I'm often shocked by the women who have lost between 5-20 lbs. (when they have over 100 to lose) and suddenly start (heavily) criticizing their family and friends for not choosing to do the same. They're not in it with them. Their attitude is "my way or the highway". <br /><br />I think your envy of people's methods is rather different than the jealousy issues over body size. Envying a lifestyle is rather more rational than being jealous of something you can never have (someone else's body). In theory, you could eventually have what they have in terms of lifestyle choices. It's not out of your reach, at least in theory.<br /><br />Personally, I don't even envy the ones who seem to have it all figured out. None of them are doing things in a way I could at my age, and many of them are doing things which I personally believe are unsustainable because they are too rigid and require too much control and time. I don't want that statement to be taken in any way other than an observation of factors that I believe cause the vast majority of people to regain. If your plan is a house of cards in which removing one will result in the whole thing toppling, it's a lot more likely to have long-term difficulties than if it's built on a solid foundation. <br /><br />Many people are one injury, one night of temptation, or one bad turn in the road of life away from their plans falling apart. I hope that is not so, but I've already been down that path and I knew where it lead me (and, frankly, even with all of my "normalization" success, I'm still worried I'll go there again).<br /><br />I guess I want to make you feel better about what you're doing. This years great success who has all of their crap together is next years candidate for recovering from a bad year. Few people really have the answers for the rest of their lives. It takes time to really work it all out for oneself in a way that can be lived with until one is older and grayer than even the two of us. ;-)<br /><br />Thanks so much for commenting and reading.screaming fatgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09556199963917842135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-239703775224526488.post-59724843056834613092010-07-17T04:13:01.143-07:002010-07-17T04:13:01.143-07:00Mmmm. Interesting post SFG.
I am one of the older...Mmmm. Interesting post SFG.<br /><br />I am one of the older ones happy in her own skin, if only there was less of it! :) In Blogland we are all in this together yet we are doing it for ourselves, no one else. I think my blog is the Anti- Envy one, because I am no example to other slimmers, although my musings on the difficulties I am finding might be entertaining! <br /><br />Envy is such a futile, destructive emotion. I feel 'vaguely' envious of those who seem to have 'got it' in terms of finding a plan and sticking to it, and losing weight. That 'envy' is however countered by my admiration for their determination. They have found something I am struggling with, so their blog is of interest - a little of their success might rub off on me!:)<br /><br />Yes, we change when we slim, we change when we find ourselves a partner. Our friends may react differently towards us. We are very complex beings aren't we? <br /><br />It IS true I think that we mellow with age. We realise life is too short for spiteful emotions, and in realising that we actually find quite a lot of inner peace. So it is with me on this road. I want to be slim, I wish I was more like the slim and fit A, B and C who seem to have cracked it, but I am also grateful that they can share their stories with us. I think we can go much further when fuelled by inspiration rather than jealousy.Fat Grumphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14563154952353175490noreply@blogger.com