tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-239703775224526488.post5639739449741123812..comments2023-05-03T03:01:09.021-07:00Comments on Screaming Fat Girl: Christmas and Candyscreaming fatgirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09556199963917842135noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-239703775224526488.post-82994397670305773092012-04-21T21:09:05.661-07:002012-04-21T21:09:05.661-07:00I think most people lie about what "their bes...I think most people lie about what "their best" is. Some of the angriest and most over-zealous people out there fall back into their old bad patterns after some success, yet they continue to be extremely judgmental and lacking in compassion.<br /><br />My husband and I have had arguments in the past because I am able to read most people very quickly. I size them up and understand them at a frightening speed and he can't see it. When they are people he likes and I see something negative, he can get defensive and refuse to believe what I have to say. He tells me that he has to "get there on his own". Knowing this, I try to understand that the dictatorial types have to suffer some more before they get there on their own and stop judging others. Suffering breeds the best understanding, unfortunately.screaming fatgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09556199963917842135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-239703775224526488.post-82815312951418549902012-04-20T13:53:13.381-07:002012-04-20T13:53:13.381-07:00Oh, you would be surprised, or perhaps not, what p...Oh, you would be surprised, or perhaps not, what people cannot tolerate when it comes to those suffering from diabetes or any other illness, disorder, disability or...inability. Doing YOUR best is not acceptable. Doing THEIR best is the only tolerable option to some. Any fluctuations, meandering on the continuum of human behavior or even taking one's time to arrive at their point of view is pretty much rejected and if you also happen to fail, get sick(er) or worst of all, not feel repentant for doing it your way...well, we talked about it on your last post. <br /><br />What never ceases to amaze me is that when it comes to other issues, the same people allow themselves just about any behavior and are proud to go against the grain, are pleased with their individuality and pretty much blow off anybody who holds a different point of view. They stand strong and appear to be completely unwilling to see that their way is not the only way and they may, indeed, do some things that may cause harm to themselves or others, with their behavior. The irony of this hypocrisy appears to allude them OR they rationalize or justify their own behavior, though rationalizing and justifying is abhorrent in others.dlambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16499771234654872541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-239703775224526488.post-18455279562551008072012-04-20T10:58:05.953-07:002012-04-20T10:58:05.953-07:00There's a bit of hypocrisy displayed by people...There's a bit of hypocrisy displayed by people when it comes to artificial sweetener use. They came into existence for diabetics, and no one would say a diabetic should have to lead a life of spartan eating or pious nutrition, but if a fat person uses artificial sweeteners to help lose weight, then they are derided for not eating more puritanically.<br /><br />People "poison" themselves with food and drink of dubious value everyday (sugar, alcohol, refined carbohydrates, red meat, fried food, etc.), but they never question their choices. It's the fat people who get scrutinized and roundly criticized for eating evil chemical sweeteners. My liver has never been touched by alcohol. I think it's powerful enough to deal with some Splenda everyday. <br /><br />People would criticize me for consuming too many calories, and then criticize me again for needing such "crutches". They can't have it both ways. I'm not capable of living the nutritionally monastic life they believe I should lead (nor are they capable of it, in all likelihood). There is what is possible for me with my limits and leaps I can't make (at least not yet). We all do what works for us and we all accept the consequences. I'm with you in this regard. I'll take my sweetener and deal with the consequences because it helps me get from where I was to where I want to be.screaming fatgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09556199963917842135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-239703775224526488.post-71518085387169404582012-04-20T08:58:29.050-07:002012-04-20T08:58:29.050-07:00Totally relate to this post, including the narciss...Totally relate to this post, including the narcissistic nature of looking at the world when denying myself "special" food. This is the reason I really like calorie counting and why it works for me. <br />Generally speaking I stick to what is considered good nutrition and I have given up a lot of things, for the most part. I avoid "empty calories" whenever I can. I've eliminated diet soda due to concern about bone density issues, though I allow myself about 6 sips a day with my vitamins, which refuse to go down with water, without my gagging. <br />Having said that, if I am having a particularly difficult day and I feel like I need to have something relatively innocuous in my mouth so that I don't overeat, I will allow myself several pieces of my favorite flavor SF hard candy. Is the splenda a great choice? Probably not but it keeps me happy and satisfied and distracted from something that could probably be more harmful. For the same calories as a single grape, I am "eating" for 30 minutes and feel like it is a great indulgence. At this point I'll take my chances with the artificial sweetener, rather than eat an additional 600 calories of something healthier. I'm ok with that.dlambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16499771234654872541noreply@blogger.com